Read : This is how I See life (EPISODE ONE)

“I can’t live without you.” Those can be some of the most endearing words to say — that someone means so much to you. But those can also be the most frightening words to say — that you need someone so much.

When you use this expression figuratively, it can be a very sweet sentiment, just like it was when Tom Cruise told Renee Zellweger in the movie Jerry Maguire, “You complete me.” But if you mean those words in any form of reality, that’s a problem.

None of us can be truly happy with someone else until we’re truly happy with ourselves. Our happiness cannot solely rest on another person. For the person hearing that, or seeing you demonstrate that, it can be overwhelming and scary. One person cannot be the end-all, be-all of our existence.

Giving control of your happiness is a lot of power to give to someone else. You should want to be in control of that yourself — it is your life, after all. From your partner’s point of view, it is an immense responsibility to place on them, and it isn’t fair. No one wants to feel that they’re responsible for anyone else’s day-to-day happiness or survival.

You may find that the more you need them to get through your day, the less of their day they will want to spend with you. The more you let them know how much you need them, the more burden they will feel and the more they may become even more distant. It becomes an endless cycle of neediness, resistance, and  will for you both as neither of gets your needs met.

No matter how much someone loves you, he or she most likely won’t be able to handle this burden for very long. Imagine yourself in their shoes: Someone has been thinking about you all day, or they cannot function without knowing exactly what you’re doing all the time, or needing to be around you every waking, breathing minute. It would feel suffocating.

You want your partner to want to be around you, to enjoy spending time with you — not feeling like if they’re not there you’ll wither away, feeling guilty or resentful when they can’t be, or no longer wanting to be. So no one should be held responsible for your happiness in life but you

                     HOW I SEE LIFE

There are people that come into your life and you think this is the beginning of success that is going to be permanent but they just go out the same way they came, there’s nobody you can’t do without and there’s nobody who can’t do without you.

Sometimes when you see the connection of the fish and the water, you will think that the water means very well for the fish until the fish is cooked and you’ll be so shocked and disappointed about the role that the water played in the death and the cooking process of the fish.

 Understand that there are three reasons why people come into your life:
 For a season
 For a reason and
 For a lesson

When people come into your life for a season and the season God brought them into your life might be to sustain you, that doesn’t mean they may stay forever.

 When people come into your life for reason and God has made you see the reason why they came, they will not stay forever and some other people come into your life for a lesson.

Understand that you should not grief and weep over somebody who walks out of your life.

Nature harbour vacuum God will always fill the vacuum but understand clearly that

 there’s nobody that you can’t do without and there’s nobody that can’t do without you.

When you know nobody can't do without you,you stop placing so much personality concept and you understand that the relationship is about service.

When you enter people’s life, no matter all they do for you make sure you contribute to their life; you have a wealthy man who is your helper. He pays your fee, he pays your rent. Once in a while when you go to see him, it might be a packet of handkerchief give to him, it might be apples, and bread on the way give to him. No matter the much he gives you, let him look forward to something coming from you else the relationship becomes parasitic. Don’t weep over the loss of a relationship and nobody will weep over you walking out of their life.

*THIS IS HOW I SEE LIFE.*

Watch out for the next episode

God bless you